I was driving to get lunch today when B called me to remind me of the baby shower for a new home group member. I'm glad she did because I'd completely forgotten about it. The member said that she had most things as this was her third boy, but she needed things like diapers and wipes, so I took her at her word. I bought her both along with some incredible books that I found in the bargain bin. They were beautiful. One was the words to Arise and Shine and the other was a lovely illustrated view of the 13th chapter of 1 Corinthians, Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels...I couldn't resist. The book was too beautiful. I may stop by tomorrow and buy one for myself. I find it curious that each one of my children in babyhood ripped that particular page out of three consecutive bibles. But I love the chapter, seek to make the chapter a primer for my love. When I got to the party, N1, J's ex and N2 (both the same name) the N who keeps badgering me were already there. B is my close friend and I know that she will cover me. So I wasn't too worried. I knew that N2 would not be comfortable in her house. Lord, politics should never mix with religion. When I sat down at the gathering N2 immediately started to tell me that she would not comment on whatever I chose to eat, which I appreciated. And the party went very smoothly until we were all done with the snacks. We were at the games/discussion part of the party and it was better than most that I have attended, when B looked over at me and said, there are cupcakes and brownies there, obviously wanting me to lead the procession to the table. There is just truly not one dessert that I will or can eat unless you want to make it without flour or sugar. I smiled and stated that I don't eat cupcakes. B, whom I love let it drop, but N2 got up and went to the table. Everyone followed her lead. After the party when everyone was leaving B asked me if I wanted to take some quiche and fruit salad home, and I told her no, I don't eat carbohydrates. Even B was shocked, asking what I do eat. I told her that mostly I eat meat, eggs, cheese and non-starchy vegetables. Then N2 who was standing close by said "so this is forever?'" to which I replied "only until we go home, and then I'm eating anything and as much as I want." N1 said "You need to back off" to N1, but N2 had already come to the conclusion and said "OK, from now on I won't comment on what you eat even though I think it may be wrong.
Two things came from this exchange. The first was that even with my relationship with J, N1 still supports me. And the second was that N2 just didn't understand. I know that she wants to control everything. But she finally accepts this is an area that I have to control. Such a relief on both levels. It wouldn't have happened if I was anywhere but B's. I truly love B...She is the second De in my life. I don't know why I am so blessed with these friendships. I sometimes feel so undeserving.