I know, it's a nice comment, but that is part of the burn. You see, I used to be married to the man who made it. I'm glad that he finally acknowledged that I do have talents and that I do nice work. But while we were married all those many years ago, he complained about each and every sewing project that I did. It didn't matter if it was knitting, sewing garments, quilting, embroidery, whatever. He did not like that I did it. So when I saw his comment this evening I wanted to say something hurtful, like "Glad you finally noticed". But then, what would be the point?
They say that forgiveness is for the person who forgives, not for the person being forgiven. And I want to say that I have forgiven him. But then things like this pop up and I realize just how far I am from truly forgiving him. I know that it's not good for me to hold on to those hurts, but honestly, until things like this pop up and remind me, I don't even think about them. I probably should go to counseling, but this is cheaper.
I am sorry. I strongly suspect I would feel just as you do. If you can spend most of your time not even considering him and the hurt he did I would count that as a win.
ReplyDeleteif that comment were said to me, my response would make a sailor blush. he has NO RIGHT to make you feel bad about yourself. and yes, I grew up in an abusive home and my first husband was a POS. FUCK THAT IGNORANT ASS!
ReplyDeleteThere's a reason we call them exholes.
ReplyDeleteYou *do* make beautiful things. No doubt at all.
Perhaps fixing it so he can't see anything you post... or you know, dumping him from your account.
As for the whole 'let it go' thing? I suspect it's a throwback to most religions. "Let's just forgive them, for we are godly" has turned into, "Let's forgive! We are better than that!"
The fact is, there are shitty people out there who don't deserve our forgiveness. He's one of them. You hereby have permission to feel however you feel, to dislike or even loathe him with NO expiration date. Oh, you don't have to let it consume every waking hour, but when you see his photo or read something he posts, you can say, "Man, I hate that guy!"
Also, I would pay 20 bucks for a pair of socks like those. They're gorgeous!
And they're worth far more, but I'm broke. :-D
I'd block him. Why should he be trolling your FB site? You owe him nothing.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Debra, block him. Or tell him to piss off and get a life.
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