My brother messaged me on Thursday that the pod has arrived. I'm sure they are very pleased to see it. I know that I am. I will be able to get my things and put this chapter behind me. I thanked him and spoke to my son about when we can pick them up. He said Monday, so I asked Ken if the day would work for him and Karen and he agreed and even said that it will be good to see me. Hoping for a good outcome, I reserved a UHaul van.
I had been hoping for a good outcome to a bad beginning, but it doesn't seem to be in the cards. Yesterday, out of the blue I got a text from my sister... Now I feel disheartened. Once again, my stomach is in a acidy knot. Every time I texted or talked with Ken, I mentioned the key that I needed to return to Karen. The text is nothing more than a cheap shot. And the artwork, it was in my room after she dumped it all on my desk while I was travelling. I honestly only have a sorta, kinda idea about which box it is in and now I'm not sticking around to unpack my boxes to look for it while I'm there. I will be grabbing my things as quickly as I can from the pod and leaving as fast as I can.
To make things worse, she texted the date the pod will be picked up, knowing that we plan to be there on Monday. I was left with the impression that she expects us to empty the pod for her. I really don't want to spend that much time there. If that is the case, my peace-maker son will probably want to oblige, and I'm not feeling that charitable. I want to have a talk with him about it before hand, but I don't want to be the problem here.
I'm glad my son will be there.
Good luck and I hope everything goes smoothly. Yes, it's good your son will be there too. Hopefully your sister won't want to act like an asshole in front of him.
ReplyDeleteYou're not the problem. Go. Get all your boxes, tell her you'll mail her half the art work. Get it all figured out ahead of time with your son. Then don't get drawn in. Your sister is mentally ill and will do whatever she thinks will bother you the most. So don't play. Among people who deal with narcissists, there's a technique known as gray rocking. Look it up if you're not familiar with it.
ReplyDeleteAnd no, don't empty the pod for her. Get your stuff and get the hell out.
Also not diagnosing your sister. The gray rocking thing works in dealing with a multitude of crazies. Best of luck to you.
ReplyDeleteI sort of agree. Just get your stuff and sort the rest later. Why let her get to you? Hope it all works out.
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